10 tips to Surviving a Separation – A lawyers perspective

1. It is ok not to be ok
Raw emotions and financial disputes are like oil and water, they don’t mix, reach out for professional help to manage the stress and emotions early.

2. Get expert advice
When you are considering separating finances, it is a great idea to seek out financial advice early so you are equipped with the tools to know the consequences of any agreement you may reach.

3. Chattels (Household and personal items)
Pick your battles wisely, whilst you may love the salad tongs they are certainly not worth fighting over them in the long run.

4. Beware of innocent ears
Your children should never be exposed to the conflict between you and the other parent. Make sure any discussions about separation are for adults ears only.

5. If it isn’t nice don’t share it
Every email, text message and written correspondence can and often is used as evidence. Keep communications between you to the point, friendly and make sure you’d be happy explaining the content of your correspondence to a Judge.

6. Get your financial information in order
Make sure you get copies of important financial documents like bank statements, loan documents, business documents, trust deeds etc. These are important pieces of information your lawyer will need to be able to give you advice.

7. Google is not the answer
You wouldn’t diagnose your medical condition by google, neither should you take advice from google about your family law matter.

8. Find a Lawyer who works with you
You don’t have to settle with the first lawyer you meet, every lawyer has their own unique style, personality and attitude, make sure that you choose a lawyer that fits you.

9. Take a pen and paper to appointments
You will often be given a lot of information and there is only so much that you can absorb in one sitting. Taking notes during the appointment will give you something to refer to later.

10. Ask Questions
Do not be afraid to ask questions. The more information that you have, the more you will understand the options available and you will feel more empowered to make decisions.   These tips will help you stay on track and we can help you with the rest.

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